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Get involved today by becoming a She's Somebody's Daughter Parent.

Review the list below for actions you can take that will protect, teach, and empower your children to develop healthy attitudes regarding intimacy, relationships, and the opposite sex.

 

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  1. Begin early with your child having conversations about concepts like human dignity, modesty, and intimacy. The average age of first exposure to pornography is between eight and eleven. You don’t want your children learning about these things from the Internet, music videos, and video games. Proactively engage your teenagers on the topic of sexuality. Let them hear the truth from you. Yes, it’s awkward but it beats the alternative.
  2. Proactively praise non-appearance related accomplishments by your children; excelling in school, volunteering at church or in the community, excellence in art, athletics, or music, etc.
  3. Encourage more reading and outdoor activities. Set limits on “screen time” and stick to them.
  4. Teach your kids to dress modestly and explain why it is important.
  5. Lay out a plan with your spouse and once you have decided what the standards will be present a united front and support one another. Kids know how to divide and conquer. This is even more important if you are raising your child as divorced parents.
  6. Monitor video games. The majority of M – rated video games contain graphic acts of savage violence against women. Music videos also routinely demean woman, portraying them as objects to be used for selfish purposes.
  7. Listen to the songs in your child’s music library. Many songs promote and even celebrate mistreatment of women.
  8. Be aware of activities and events at your child’s school. If you find something you feel is inappropriate speak to the teacher or principal.
  9. Put Internet filter programs on all computers used by your children.
  10. Monitor your child’s Internet use maintaining access to their e-mail, Facebook, and other Internet accounts.
  11. Look carefully through the magazines in your home. Many carry advertisements that are objectifying and objectionable. Cancel subscriptions to magazines that carry inappropriate imagery.
  12. Look carefully through your DVD and video closet. Remove films and programs with inappropriate imagery. Don’t automatically assume that PG-13 material is safe. Also, do not assume you remember all the scenes from a movie you last watched five or ten years ago.
  13. Don’t automatically assume that PG-13 films are safe. PG-13 is what R used to be. Hollywood is not interested in protecting your kids. They are interested in making money – and sex sells. There are content monitoring websites where you can visit to see whether or not a film might be OK for your child.
  14. Block access to cable channels with inappropriate content.
  15. Resist using TV as a babysitter. Watch TV as a family. Carefully monitor commercials and prime time programming for teachable moments. There is no ‘family hour’ or network (such as Disney) that you can automatically trust.
  16. Speak with the parents of your children’s friends to make sure your child is spending time with those who are supporting your standards. Be willing to be unpopular.
  17. Make sure all devices with screens are in walk-through rooms in your home. No computers or televisions in bedrooms. Don’t let your child take their cell phone to bed.
  18. Look for “teachable moments” to talk with your kids when you see a billboard, mall window display, music video, TV or magazine ad, etc. that degrades and objectifies women or men.
  19. To discourage “sexting” consider buying your teen a cell phone without a camera. Hold off on the laptop until colleg. That goes for the iPad too. Yes, they will argue with you about this.
  20. Lead by example. Make sure you aren’t watching or reading something you would tell your kids not to watch or read.
  21. Get another adult to be a mentor in your teenager’s life. They may hear be more open to hearing a message on this issue from someone who is NOT their parent.
  22. Watch the Somebody’s Daughter DVD and/or listen to the CD as a family. Then talk about it. The content is appropriate for ages 12 and up.
  23. Advocate for your kids in your community by speaking to managers of stores and other public spaces that have inappropriate material. If they are non-responsive then let your dollars do the talking by not patronizing businesses that objectify women.
  24. Let your child see you respecting and honoring your spouse including appropriate displays of public affection such as handholding, and non-sexual hugging or kissing.
  25. Create a certificate suitable for framing proclaiming “Susie Smith is Somebody’s Daughter - Beloved and cherished by her parents Bob & Joan Smith, Her grandparents Samuel & Diane Smith and Paul & Sally Jones. If you are a Christian family you can add “and perfectly made by her Heavenly Father.”
  26. Look for age-appropriate books and videos that reinforce healthy views of sexuality and make them available to your child.

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