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Exotic dancers deserve love and respect

"Exotic dancers more than just sex objects, they deserve love and respect, advocate says."

The Patriot News ran an article about She's Somebody's Daughter and we were honored by Anne Reeves.

"Since last fall, Stauffer and a small group of volunteers have experienced similar encounters through their work with She’s Somebody’s Daughter, a nonprofit the Hummelstown woman began to help women and men working in the sex-trade industry.

The group visits area strip clubs to offer support to their dancers and has erected billboards in Harrisburg, Oklahoma City and Nashville to raise awareness about pornography and sexual exploitation."

Read Anne's full article on PennLive.

 

Bossy?

ban-bossy-badge2Beyonce, among other high-powered celebrity friends, is part of a campaign to stop people from calling girls “bossy.” Read more here. 

Yet her husband Jay Z sings a song called "Bossy" and uses degrading lyrics such as: I'm so bossy, bi**h get off me...  They become more violent but we choose not to print them.

So...she wants to advocate against the word bossy, but doesn't mind that her husband calls women degrading names and uses other dehumanizing names and phrases in his lyrics.

Are you as confused as we are?

How about this? Let's value women.  Start there and being called 'bossy' becomes a non-issue. 

 

Read Dr. Linda Mintle's opinion on this too: Frankly, I’d take being called “bossy” any day over being assaulted by profanity!

 

Taking Things to the Next Level

 

Springtime always brings to mind the concept of hope. We have just gone through a seemingly endless winter filled with bitter cold weather, several snowstorms and short days. Finally we are beginning to experience the hope of spring. In similar ways the women and men we are reaching out to have often experienced long seasons of darkness. It is our goal to remind them amidst the hardships they face there is hope, there is love, and they each have value.

In order to continue raising awareness of these important issues and build communities that honor women, we are taking things to the next level. We are excited to announce that She’s Somebody’s Daughter has officially been incorporated and we have filed the application with the IRS for federal tax exemption as a 501(c)(3) non-profit organization! 

As executive director, I have been working with an attorney and an advisory board during this process. Regarding donations, what this means is that all donations to She’s Somebody’s Daughter, received since February 11, 2014 our date of incorporation, will be retroactive and tax-deductible pending our status being approved. When the designation is granted, the full amount of any financial contributions will be deductible for federal income tax purposes. While we do not anticipate it, if our application is not approved, your contributions will not be considered tax-deductible.
 
Numerous volunteers, including a website professional, an accounting assistant, and a donor manager have all graciously been a part of this process. We're grateful for each of them and the ways they’ve been involved as we take things to the next level!   

Vision and Mission: Read more about our vision of creating a model of what it means to be a community that honors women and speaks truth about sexual exploitation.
 

Tammy Stauffer

Executive Director

Hope. Faith. Trust. Believe.

Hope. Faith. Trust. Believe. This was the theme of our most recent visits to area strip clubs. One of the club owners in PA, who has given us an open door policy, requested that we visit two other clubs in surrounding counties because he felt that the girls needed to be “reached out to”closed opt.
 
Our first visit to the new clubs ended when our team of four found both of them dark and closed, even though we had checked on the hours. We used our time sitting in one of the parking lots to talk, strategize, share and pray with one another.

Pressing on, we decided to try again a week later after visiting one of our adopted clubs on a scheduled night. With twenty-four beautifully wrapped gift bags holding special awareness bracelets, homemade scones and poppy seed bread, a fruit tray, and purple and green cupcakes carefully packed in the car, we were ready!

In the late afternoon, we first enjoyed visiting a couple of the girls we’ve gotten to know who work the day shift at the club we visit the most. It’s a little more relaxed in the afternoons so we have time to simply chat about life, kids, relationships and the drama of working in a club.

Miss A was afraid to open her gift at first because she didn’t want to undo the beauty of it! But what a blessing when she asked if she could have an awareness bracelet for her teenage daughter. An extra cupcake was shared, too!

On to the next club, the sunset was beautiful during the drive and the conversation in the car was helpful and inspiring as we weren’t sure what to expect at the two new clubs. Some of the girls who knew we were going either warned us or told us to say hi to a certain friend.

We were pleasantly surprised, at the first place, to find two young ladies almost alone since it was still early evening. We carefully explained who we were, shared that one of the owners asked us to come in, and told them why we were there: on behalf of She’s Somebody’s Daughter we wanted to let them know that they are valued and loved, and that we have a few gifts for them.bracelets-gifts opt

They looked at us, looked at each other and just laughed as they said “Well this is different from what we know, and it's so nice!” and from there we didn’t stop talking – about kids and potty training to trying poppy seed bread for the first time to knowing people who pray and claim to be Christians but live a different life than they'd expect to see.

At one point, as we said that honoring a woman as a daughter is a decision each person will have to make in his or own her heart, I couldn’t help but wonder what the patrons thought who were listening to this conversation.

Thirty minutes later, we promised to return and left extra goodies for the girls who weren’t on shift yet. These two girls were very excited and are already looking forward to the spa/pampering day coming up in May!

On to the next club, feeling thankful for the connections we had just made, we were cautiously hopeful; for this next one was the club we were warned about for various reasons. After entering the door we made our way through the hallway reception area to the counter and found a lovely, very tattooed lady resting under her fuzzy blanket on a leather sofa. We hated to disturb her, but she jumped up and asked how she could help us as she kept looking at the gifts and goodies we held in our hands.

Later we agreed that we have never had someone stare so intently into our eyes as this woman did as we shared why we were there with gifts – we simply wanted to let her and her girls know that they are loved and valued. None of us blinked for a few seconds as we waited for her to respond not knowing if she was going to kick us out or laugh or what, so you can imagine our surprise when she began to cry and said “God does work in mysterious ways. I can’t believe you are here tonight.”

This beautiful lady has been searching for meaning and shared that she is trying to ‘get her life in order’. She listens to Joyce Myers and has a better knowledge of the Bible than some Christians. We assured her that she is not alone, through She's Somebod
y's Daughter and the support network being built, brighter days are ahead.

We were able to share with her that we’ve been offered free tickets for the Beth Moore conference coming to Hershey, PA in May. At the suggestion of a team member, it didn’t take long for her to get online to find Beth Moore videos to watch later.

After another round of hugs, she gave us permission to come back anytime and we promised she would see us again. She just kept saying, “God does work in mysterious ways; He showed Himself this night.” 

table opt It was a lot to digest as we made our way to our last stop of the night, back to our first club so we could connect with the night shift girls. And were we ever thankful we planned it this way!

As we set up at one of our usual tables, the green and purple cupcakes were such a hit they had one young lady jumping up and down she was so excited!!

After getting past the delicate, gorgeous wrapping of the gift bags – which everybody loved and nobody wanted to destroy! – the bracelets definitely were a hit. One of the girls, after opening hers and reading the word that was written on the charm, gasped and immediately pointed to a very large tattoo on her side of the same word…her life word: BELIEVE. She couldn’t believe the bag she chose had a bracelet with her word! This led into a discussion about what she believes in, a discussion that will continue on future visits.

Other words were hope, faith, trust...hence our theme for the evening’s visits.We look forward to returning to visit the ladies and feel honored that they are so receptive to our visits.

Learn more about Lighthouse Network's mental health and addiction awareness bracelets.  

The Truth About Sexual Exploitation: New Poster to Help Raise Awareness!

Do you want to help raise awareness about sexual exploitation and make a difference in the life of somebody's daughter?

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Use our newly designed She’s Somebody’s Daughter poster to help others remember, or think about it in a new way, that every woman they meet is somebody’s daughter - created to be valued, not exploited.

Viewing others as somebody’s daughter - or somebody’s son - should prompt anyone to make a call if they notice suspicious behavior, especially involving a young person.
 

We just picked up our own freshly printed copies from the printer to begin sharing and posting publicly, and are excited to share this resource with you!

 

 

 

 

Click Here to Download Poster for Web/Social Media Purposes

Click Here to Download Poster for Print Purposes   

 
What you can do with this poster:
  1. Share it on your social media sites and ask others to share and help raise awareness
  2. Print copies and ask for permission to hang them in public places, such as stores, businesses, bars, clubs, malls, truck stops, travel plazas, etc.
  3. Forward this to your friends and family and ask them to begin sharing this important message.


Poster was designed by:
Brian Fowler, Creative Director
DesignTeam
www.DesignTeamInc.com

Donate today to help us design a He’s Somebody’s Son poster!
 


Signs of trafficking you may notice could include:

If an individual...

  • Is not free to leave or come and go as he/she wishes
  • Is under 18 and is providing commercial sex acts
  • Is in the commercial sex industry and has a pimp / manager
  • Is unpaid, paid very little, or paid only through tips
  • Works excessively long and/or unusual hours
  • Is not allowed breaks or suffers under unusual restrictions at work
  • Owes a large debt and is unable to pay it off
  • Was recruited through false promises concerning the nature and conditions of his/her work
  • High security measures exist in the work and/or living locations (e.g. opaque windows, boarded up windows, bars on windows, barbed wire, security cameras, etc.)

(Courtesy of Polaris Project)
 

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