Sexual addictions and compulsive sexual behavior are growing societal problems, with as many as three to six percent of the world population affected. Your Sexually Addicted Partner shatters the stigma and shame that millions of men and women carry when their partners are sexually addicted. They receive little empathy for their pain, which means they suffer alone, often shocked and isolated by the trauma.
Are you suffering the effects of sexual abuse? There is a way out. In Not Marked: Finding Hope and Healing after Sexual Abuse, Mary DeMuth illuminates the way to go from shame-filled to joy-filled, from traumatized to finding enduring peace. This isn’t theory. Mary has lived it. She’s traveled this path and offers a uniquely qualified, insider’s view of the healing process.
Then Mary goes deeper—because often you’re not the only one who has suffered. Her husband Patrick comes alongside her and offers insights into how spouses can love a sexual abuse victim toward wholeness, and how this will bring your relationship a whole new level of strength.
Pure Life Ministries exists to serve Christian individuals and organizations dealing with sexual sin throughout the world by providing biblically based counseling, teaching resources, and a public speaking ministry with the goal of leading Christians to victory over sexual sin through a deeper life in God.
Offering resources such as podcasts, articles, counseling, videos, stories, and more for both men and women wanting to break free from the addiction of pornography as well as resources for leaders of our churches.
The Candeo Podcast for Women - "It's Not Your Fault" Speaks directly to Women who are concerned about husbands, children and others who may be struggling with an addiction to Internet Pornography. "It's Not Your Fault" speaks to listeners, especially women, that it is not their fault their husband is addicted to pornography. Each week host Becky Harding will interview experts in the Pornography Addiction Recovery field and those who have personal experience overcoming an addiction or helping a loved one come to terms with and heal from an addiction to Internet Pornography. The Candeo Program is an online training system that is designed to shed new light on the scientifically proven reality of pornography addiction, and to bring about healing through a revolutionary approach to learning and behavior modification.
Wholeness and Healing for Women Caught in the Crossfire. As the wife of a man who is addicted to lust, pornography, or masturbation, you are not alone.
Millions of men can’t get through the day or the week without clicking on to their favorite Internet porn sites, thumbing through adult magazines, or watching sensual videos—and millions of wives suffer as a result. Over the past decade, nearly 400,000 men have found inspiration and hope in Fred Stoeker's "Every Man’s Battle", the best-selling men’s guide to victory over sexual sin.
Now, here at last is the book for every woman who has become a casualty in the fight for sexual purity. Every Heart Restored offers godly guidance and wisdom for a woman facing such personal betrayal.
Here's and excerpt from pp. 69,70 desribing the power of the brain chemistry and addiction...
When I’m asked how strong sex addiction is, I refer to the brain chemistry. Understanding that my brain had been rewired by the thousands and thousands of images helped me understand the mechanics of my behavior. I began to understand how masturbation and orgasm had been the needle in my arm reinforcing every sexual act. My brain had been altered to crave the images, the excitement, and the lure of each secret encounter. With each bout of depression, anxiety, frustration and fear, I would need another “fix” to find internal brain chemical balance.
L.I.F.E. Recovery International is a Christ-centered support group ministry whose mission is to encourage, empower, and equip God’s people to live everyday in sexual integrity. L.I.F.E. provides consistently-revised workbook resources, educational multimedia presentations, and support group structure to the Christian community across the globe.
Help for Spouse's of Sex Addicts
L.I.F.E. Recovery Guide for Spouses
This workbook will introduce a new way of looking at recovery and transformation in our lives. While the workbook is easy enough to follow alone, it is highly recommended that it be used in conjunction with a L.I.F.E. support group. By participating in a group, one enters a safe-environment of others on the same journey creating a support structure. This workbook is not for women dealing with sexual addiction.
“Definitive hope for spouses feeling lost and broken due to sexual addiction. Meg Wilson understands the tragedy of addiction and the wisdom in rebuilding.” —J. R. Mahon, Pastor, XXXchurch.com
Meg Wilson, author of Hope After Betrayal, wants you to know she understands that "...praying for your husband may be the farthest thing from your mind. Divorce or causing him bodily harm may be the thoughts that are in the forefront of your mind. I can understand that. I knew that there was a good chance my marriage was going to end based on the choices I made. If I ever choose to go back to my sexual addiction, my marriage will most likely end. The bottom line is, your pain is real. I know that it isn’t easy for you to pray for your husband, because it’s hard to pray for the people who hurt us. I can say, though, because of Meg’s determination to pray for my healing and for me, I was able to continue on the path of recovery. There were times when she’d pray for me before we went to bed. There were many more times when I felt her prayers as I went through my day.
The power of a praying wife should not be underestimated. Your prayers are important. They will lift up your husband as he pushes through the lies of the enemy, and they will give him strength to work on his recovery. Your prayers will also be a powerful tool to help your husband if he’s in denial or unwilling to start the process of recovery.
Please believe me that God will bring your husband to a point of decision. Your husband will decide either to continue on his path of self-destruction or he’ll decide to get healthy. You can’t make that decision for him. But you can pray that he’ll be receptive to what God is trying to do in his life. Your prayers and the prayers of others will play an incredibly important role in God’s getting your partner’s attention."
FamilyLife has information about first steps you can take when finding out that your husband has been struggling with pornography.
The first thing you need to work through is your immediate response. Your strong feelings are both understandable and justified.
Please know there is hope: many couples have succeeded in overcoming pornography and have found a healthy balance in their marriage again: a marriage that they love being part of. Read the post about helping your husband with pornography.